Valentine's day is already gone, however, the idea of celebrating love and friendship just for one day every year seems wrong to me. Let me explain myself. Valentine's day is a very important celebration, no doubt, but my point of view is that love must be shown every time, every day.
Today we will talk about healthy love relationships (yeah, those that you have to maintain for the rest of the year right after February 14). I'm just a 12-year-old girl and you will be asking yourself right now What could this kid know about love and relationships? Well, I've NEVER had a relationship, but I see what healthy relationships need because I see healthy relationships in the people around me. These tips are from my heart, I hope you enjoy them. Let's start!!
Tip # 1: Listen.
It can sound so simple, but it is sometimes the hardest thing to do, and it's the key of a healthy and honest relationship. Listening to your partner will help you understand his or her problems. Many times, we foster thoughts like “I have many problems, and they are the worst ones”. That is not true! Everyone has problems and the crude reality is that if you don't accept that, you are not ready for a serious relationship.
Try to listen to your partner and let him or her listen to your problems too. Communication reduces stress! Remember to take turns, don't interrupt your partner when he/she talks, show your interest, and give opinions only when asked to. Active listening will show that you really care about what your partner is telling you. Make sure to ask the necessary questions and validate your partner's emotions.
Tip #2: Spend time together
There are many ways in which you can spend time together, like going to the gym or, romantic dinner, go out or stay in to enjoy a candlelight dinner and background music, a concert at home, cinema, Karaokes, picnics, etc. These moments help build trust and help the bond you have with your partner grow. I promise you that it will make a difference.
The benefits of spending time together are that it improves communication, also creates new experiences together, which reinforces the sense of companionship and friendship. As a couple it is very common to create comfort zones, and when we leave them we feel disengaged to the point of not knowing the person who is next to us, and that doesn't sound good, right?.
Tip #3: Make time for yourself
I know that this is exactly the opposite of what I just said, but as a couple, both of you must make the decision to take time apart so that each one has their own space. It is great to do things together, but not EVERYTHING.
Having a partner should not limit continuing to grow as a person. Having your own identity, continuing to cultivate those hobbies that you like so much, and having your social network of family and friends. Many people think that true couples should do everything together or do the exact same things. True happiness is the ability to continuing being you but also choosing to be with the other person
All these tips will help you understand your partner. Remember these tips are just a guide so your relationship gets better and more trustworthy. In the end, the most IMPORTANT thing in a healthy relationship is LOVE.
PS: If you are still single, save this article and enjoy your life. Someday, It might come useful. See you next time!
OMG LOVE THIS WRITING PIECE! I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE PART THAT YOU SAID "Valentine's day is already gone, however, the idea of celebrating love and friendship just for one day every year seems wrong to me"
ReplyDeleteGreat tips here Paula! I like how you included both "spending time together" and "making time for yourself." This is wise advice as balance is key!
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